Homily from the 31st Sunday of Ordinary Time - Year A
Why this change?
Why, beginning on November 27th, the First Sunday of Advent, will we begin using a new translation of the Roman Missal? All the parts of the Mass come out of Scripture or ancient texts that have been part of our Church for hundreds and hundreds of years. Those texts are originally written in Latin. The Church wants to make sure the words we pray in English every week is the best possible translation we can get.
In the late 1980’s, Blessed Pope John Paul II recognized that the English translation of the Roman Missal should be better. As you know, John Paul II spoke several languages and traveled the world. So, the first reason why we’re using a new translation is so we can use a more exact translation of the Latin into English.
Another reason we’re using a new translation is so that we here in the United States and other English speaking countries will be saying the same thing the rest of the world has already been saying in the Mass for over 40 years. With this new translation, we’ll, in a sense, be catching up with what everyone else in the world is already doing.
"And with your spirit."
Let’s look at one of the first things you, the people say at Mass. Today, when the priest says, “The Lord be with you” you respond, “And also with you. However, in the new translation, your response will be “And with your spirit.” Why?
Well, the original text in Latin is “Et cum spiritu tuo” which literally means, “And with your spirit.” For the last 40 years or so, when we’ve said “And also with you” we’ve been saying an interpretation of the Latin instead of the best translation possible.
When I was in the seminary, we would have Mass in Spanish every Wednesday, and this response was “Y con tu Espiritu” which literally means “And with your Spirit.” So, we’re merely joining what the rest of the world is already saying and thereby, will be more unified in our prayer with the rest of the world.
But there’s another reason why this translation is better. Not just because it’s the correct translation, but also because it brings out deep spiritual meaning that’s been lost for the last 40 years. The reason why you’ll say “And with your spirit” is because you are acknowledging the unique activity of the Holy Spirit working through the priest during Mass.
Now, perhaps “And with your spirit” sounds like you’re putting the priest on a pedestal. Actually, it’s quite the contrary. “And with your spirit” is a humbling reminder to Monsignor and I that what we are about to do is not about us, but about the Holy Spirit working through us. We can do nothing on our own. So, unlike “And also with you” which puts the emphasis on Monsignor and I, “And with your spirit” put the emphasis where it belongs: on the Holy Spirit working through us.
"Through my fault, through my fault, through my most grievous fault."
The words of the “I confess” also known as the “Confiteor” are changing somewhat. Today, we say, “I have sinned through my own fault.” In the new translation, we’ll say, “I have greatly sinned… through my fault, through my fault, through my most grievous fault.” First, it’s a literal translation of the Latin: "mea culpa, mea culpa, mea maxima culpa."
Perhaps your thinking, “Why such an emphasis on our fault?” Do we have to say it three times? Well, just think about how you already say your sorry when you’ve offended someone. Let’s say I took this book and hit Monsignor over the head with it. Then let’s say I wanted to apologize and let him know I was truly sorry. If I said, “Hey, sorry” and then walked away would you believe me? No, when we’re really sorry for something, we always apologize more than once. We say something like, “Monsignor, I’m so sorry I did that. I don’t know what came over me. Please forgive me.”
Plus, we’re not only going to use new words, but we’re also going to add new gestures. When we say “through my fault” three times, we’ll tap our breast with our fist.
Why? A couple of reasons.
First, it’s an action we find in Scripture. In the Gospel of Luke, Jesus tells the parable of two people who went to the temple to pray. One was arrogant and blind to his sins and said, “O God, I thank you that I am not like the rest of humanity: greed, dishonest, adulterous.” But the other man who was truly repentant, “beat his breast and prayed, ‘O God, be merciful to me a sinner.”
Second, we’re sacramental people. In the sacraments, we use all our senses in our worship of God: we use sight to look upon beautiful art, we use hearing to listen to the Word of God, we use our sense of smell when we smell incense, we use our sense of taste when we receive the Body and Blood of Christ. We also worship through the gestures we make. We make the Sign of the Cross... we also trace the Cross on our foreheads, our lips and our hearts before we hear the words of the Gospel… we kneel during the Eucharistic Prayer… we bow right before we receive the Eucharist. We associate physical actions and make use of our senses with our words to give our worship fuller meaning.
And lastly, we sin in bodily ways don’t ways don’t we? Ever wave high to someone and use only one finger instead of all five? Well, were showing ourselves and one another that as we sin in a bodily way, we repent in a bodily way too.
The Gloria
We used to sing, “Glory to God in the highest and peace to his people on earth.” Today we sang, “Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace to people of good will.”
Those words come from the Gospel of Luke. They’re the hymn the angels sang on Christmas morning when angels announced to shepherds the birth of Jesus: “Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace to people on whom his favor rests.”
Why wouldn’t we want to use the most precise translation of Scripture, the inspired Word of God? If we, as Catholics, take this seriously, the new translation can lead us to a new understanding of the Mass and Scripture than we’ve ever had before.
Read New Roman Missal Part 2 - The Liturgy of the Word.
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Sunday, October 23, 2011
$12.41
Homily from the 30th Sunday of Ordinary Time - Year A
Before entering the seminary, I worked for a radio station. And every year, our radio station hosted a week-long telethon to raise money for child abuse prevention. It was hosted by our morning show djs from the roof of a local supermarket. Up they went Monday morning, and from the roof of this supermarket they broadcast their show from 6AM until 10PM everyday until they finally came down from the roof on Friday evening. They lived and worked up there. They ate their meals up there. They slept in sleeping bags and tents up there. They even had a port-a-potty up there and a hose to take a shower with.
All week long, our morning show would interview people who were brought up to the roof on a cherry picker. They interviewed victims of child abuse who had the courage to share gut-wrenching stories of suffering, and torment as well as stories of healing, recovery and triumph. They also spoke with counselors and case workers.
They also interviewed owners of local businesses would be brought up to the roof on a cherry picker and they’d present giant cardboard checks. Huge amounts of money: $5,000, $10,000, $20,000. Over the course of the week, the radio station would raise hundreds of thousands of dollars for child abuse prevention.
One day, as we were sitting on the roof, we saw the cherry picker rise up over the crest of the roof, and on the cherry picker was Lou, the director of South Bend’s Center for the Homeless. And in his hands he held not a giant cardboard check but a coffee can.
Lou stepped up the mic and said that the guests at the South Bend Center for the Homeless, the homeless themselves, had been listening to the broadcast, they had heard the stories of abuse and how other people were donating money; and they wanted to make a donation too. So they passed the coffee can around the homeless shelter and they gave what they had and Lou said, “The guests at the South Bend Center for the Homeless are pleased to make this donation of $12.41.”
It was the biggest donation of all.
Do you remember the story of Jesus and the disciples sitting outside the temple treasury watching wealthy people make their offerings? Jesus is unphased by their generosity until He sees a widow give two small coins. And He says, “this poor woman put in more than all the rest; for these others have all made offerings from their surplus wealth, but she, from her poverty, has offered her whole livelihood.”
That’s what the guests of the South Bend Center from the Homeless did. These people, who had no job, no place to call home, no possessions except the clothes on their back, gave what little they had. But the little they had was everything they had. They gave their whole livelihood.
In today’s Gospel, Jesus tells us that the greatest commandment in the law is “You shall love the Lord, your God, with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your mind.” We cannot love God with half a heart, half a soul and half a mind. We must love Him completely, holding nothing back, with a love that knows no limits.
Why? Is God greedy? No. God has no need for our love or praise.
Is it because we owe God complete and total love? We certainly do but I think there’s an even more satisfying answer.
We must love God completely, because we need to. Unless we love God completely, with all our heart, all our soul, and all our mind, we will never know true happiness; we will never truly be satisfied.
The guests at the South Bend Center for the Homeless gave all they had because they needed to. They could not stand to stand by while injustice and violence was committed against innocent children. To give any less than they had would have left them unhappy and unsatisfied.
We need to give God all our love, not just our leftover love that’s remaining after we’ve loved our possessions, our houses, our wealth, our trips, our families or ourselves. Indeed, we can only love one another if we love God with all our heart, with all our soul and with all our mind.
We can love God in this way because He loves us in this way. Jesus loves us with all his heart, with all his soul and with all his mind. All we need to do is look to the cross to see this love. Jesus kept nothing for Himself. He gives Himself completely to us.
This is the love that we need to imitate. Loving God in this way is the only love that will satisfy us. Anything less, will leave us frustrated, incomplete and indeed, inhuman. All our time, all our energy, all our wealth, all our possessions, all of us must be given back to God in one way or another.
Now I’m not saying that we have to drop our whole paycheck into the collection basket. But we do have to ask ourselves if we use our time, our money, our hearts, our minds, our souls for God or for less than Him.
So, let us ask ourselves these questions:
Is God my first thought of each day? Do I give Him thanks for the gift of my life and the gift of another day?
Do I give God thanks for the gift of the spouse I wake up next to, and my children; my family and my friends?
Do I thank God for the blessings He has poured out upon my life?
Do I recognize my good fortune as blessings from God?
And when I experience misfortune or tragedy in my life do I blame God? Or do I sincerely ask Him for help and trust Him?
Do I share the good gifts I’ve been given with others and especially with the poor?
Do I put the needs of others first or do I think of them only after I’ve satisfied my own needs?
Do I love God with all my heart, with all my soul, and with all my mind? And do I love my neighbor as myself?
Before entering the seminary, I worked for a radio station. And every year, our radio station hosted a week-long telethon to raise money for child abuse prevention. It was hosted by our morning show djs from the roof of a local supermarket. Up they went Monday morning, and from the roof of this supermarket they broadcast their show from 6AM until 10PM everyday until they finally came down from the roof on Friday evening. They lived and worked up there. They ate their meals up there. They slept in sleeping bags and tents up there. They even had a port-a-potty up there and a hose to take a shower with.
All week long, our morning show would interview people who were brought up to the roof on a cherry picker. They interviewed victims of child abuse who had the courage to share gut-wrenching stories of suffering, and torment as well as stories of healing, recovery and triumph. They also spoke with counselors and case workers.
They also interviewed owners of local businesses would be brought up to the roof on a cherry picker and they’d present giant cardboard checks. Huge amounts of money: $5,000, $10,000, $20,000. Over the course of the week, the radio station would raise hundreds of thousands of dollars for child abuse prevention.
One day, as we were sitting on the roof, we saw the cherry picker rise up over the crest of the roof, and on the cherry picker was Lou, the director of South Bend’s Center for the Homeless. And in his hands he held not a giant cardboard check but a coffee can.
Lou stepped up the mic and said that the guests at the South Bend Center for the Homeless, the homeless themselves, had been listening to the broadcast, they had heard the stories of abuse and how other people were donating money; and they wanted to make a donation too. So they passed the coffee can around the homeless shelter and they gave what they had and Lou said, “The guests at the South Bend Center for the Homeless are pleased to make this donation of $12.41.”
It was the biggest donation of all.
Do you remember the story of Jesus and the disciples sitting outside the temple treasury watching wealthy people make their offerings? Jesus is unphased by their generosity until He sees a widow give two small coins. And He says, “this poor woman put in more than all the rest; for these others have all made offerings from their surplus wealth, but she, from her poverty, has offered her whole livelihood.”
That’s what the guests of the South Bend Center from the Homeless did. These people, who had no job, no place to call home, no possessions except the clothes on their back, gave what little they had. But the little they had was everything they had. They gave their whole livelihood.
In today’s Gospel, Jesus tells us that the greatest commandment in the law is “You shall love the Lord, your God, with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your mind.” We cannot love God with half a heart, half a soul and half a mind. We must love Him completely, holding nothing back, with a love that knows no limits.
Why? Is God greedy? No. God has no need for our love or praise.
Is it because we owe God complete and total love? We certainly do but I think there’s an even more satisfying answer.
We must love God completely, because we need to. Unless we love God completely, with all our heart, all our soul, and all our mind, we will never know true happiness; we will never truly be satisfied.
The guests at the South Bend Center for the Homeless gave all they had because they needed to. They could not stand to stand by while injustice and violence was committed against innocent children. To give any less than they had would have left them unhappy and unsatisfied.
We need to give God all our love, not just our leftover love that’s remaining after we’ve loved our possessions, our houses, our wealth, our trips, our families or ourselves. Indeed, we can only love one another if we love God with all our heart, with all our soul and with all our mind.
We can love God in this way because He loves us in this way. Jesus loves us with all his heart, with all his soul and with all his mind. All we need to do is look to the cross to see this love. Jesus kept nothing for Himself. He gives Himself completely to us.
This is the love that we need to imitate. Loving God in this way is the only love that will satisfy us. Anything less, will leave us frustrated, incomplete and indeed, inhuman. All our time, all our energy, all our wealth, all our possessions, all of us must be given back to God in one way or another.
Now I’m not saying that we have to drop our whole paycheck into the collection basket. But we do have to ask ourselves if we use our time, our money, our hearts, our minds, our souls for God or for less than Him.
So, let us ask ourselves these questions:
Is God my first thought of each day? Do I give Him thanks for the gift of my life and the gift of another day?
Do I give God thanks for the gift of the spouse I wake up next to, and my children; my family and my friends?
Do I thank God for the blessings He has poured out upon my life?
Do I recognize my good fortune as blessings from God?
And when I experience misfortune or tragedy in my life do I blame God? Or do I sincerely ask Him for help and trust Him?
Do I share the good gifts I’ve been given with others and especially with the poor?
Do I put the needs of others first or do I think of them only after I’ve satisfied my own needs?
Do I love God with all my heart, with all my soul, and with all my mind? And do I love my neighbor as myself?
Sunday, October 2, 2011
Natural Family Planning - A Love That Knows No Limits
Homily from the 27th Sunday of Ordinary Time - Year A (Respect Life Sunday)
One of the great joys I get to share in is helping couples prepare for marriage. If you’re a married couple, think back to how excited you were as you prepared to begin your life together. And even if you’re not married, surely you’ve seen the joy of your family and friends as they get ready for marriage.
Now I won’t be coy and pretend as though the days leading up to marriage are completely free from all anxiety. There’s all the details of the ceremony: invitations, dresses, tuxes, who to stick your weird Uncle Bill with at the reception and so on. And that’s just the small stuff! There’s also stuff like putting together a financial plan, buying a house, whose parents you’ll spend Thanksgiving with, living the life of faith, getting each other to Heaven, and so on.
But on the whole, helping couples prepare for marriage can be a real joy. Especially when they talk about their hopes and dreams. When they talk about how they want to make a life together… how they want to give their lives to one another… and how much they love one another. Conversations about invitations and cake cease as soon as the wedding day is done (or at least as soon as the bills are paid!). But hopefully conversations about your hopes, dreams, expectations and love for one another continue through the years.
Just about every couple mentions the following things they want from their marriage and their spouse: they want good communication. They want complete and total commitment from their spouse. They want healthy and happy children. They are ready and willing to sacrifice for one another. They want to be faithful to one another their entire lives. They don’t want to hold anything back from one another.
In other words, they want a love that knows no limits
Which is great because this is precisely the love Christ has for us: a love that knows no limits. Christ’s love for us is so great, He, who is God, became one like us. He lived and worked like us. He grew up in a family like us. He suffered hardship like us. He also suffered his passion and death on the Cross for us. He gave his entire life for us and held nothing back. His love for us is a love that knows no limits.
Christ tells us to follow His example of love. “As I have loved you,” Jesus says, “so you should love one another.” We are to love one another, and most especially our spouse by giving our entire lives to them and holding nothing back. These are the dreams that were born the day you fell in love with your spouse. This is the type of love you hoped and prayed for as you got ready for marriage. This is the love you pledged yourselves to when you said your wedding vows. And this is the type of love you choose to live everyday of your marriage: a love that knows no limits.
However, as we all well know, multiple forces attack this love that knows no limits. Arguments about money… jealousy… inattentiveness… lack of communication. All these can lead to breakdowns in our marriages. They pile up barriers between husbands and wives. They prevent us from giving ourselves completely and unselfishly to our spouses.
And there’s another force that attacks this love we all yearn for, this love that knows no limits, and that’s contraception. Although we may not realize it or intend it, marriages are under attack by contraception because contraception prevents us from giving our entire lives to our spouse.
Now, I’m not saying that a couple who uses contraception doesn’t love each other. I am absolutely certain that couples who use birth control love each other in so many authentic ways. However, the act of contracepted love itself can never be an act of authentic love. Because, when we use contraception, whether we’re aware of it or not, whether we intend it or not, we say to our spouse with our bodies, “You can have all of me… except for this one part of me: my fertility. I’m keeping that part of me to myself and you can’t have it at the present moment.” And, when we use contraception, we say to God, whether we’re aware of it or not, whether we intend it or not, “I’m sorry God, but I’m not going to let you completely into this union at the present moment.”
Because there aren’t just two in a marriage, there are three: a husband, a wife, and God who unites them and gives them the gift of children.
When couples contracept, they close themselves off from the two things God designed the marital embrace for: a two in one flesh union and children. Or, as I like to say, the two things God made the marital embrace for: bonding and babies.
Now don’t get me wrong, God is not saying that you must conceive a child with every single marital embrace. There are many good reasons why couples need to regulate the number of children they have. The ability to provide financially for a bigger family for instance. Or the health of the mother. God is not saying you have to have as many babies as your bodies can tolerate.
However, He is saying that husbands and wives must cooperate with His design for the marital embrace: husbands and wives must be truly be bonded to one another, holding nothing back and they must be open to the possibility of children.
There is however, a way husbands and wives can regulate how many children they have and when they have them without saying “no” to God’s design for bonding and babies. It’s called Natural Family Planning.
Natural Family Planning, or NFP, is a method by which spouses may achieve or avoid pregnancy by observing naturally occurring signs in the woman’s body. Unlike contraception which invades and sterilizes the body, NFP looks at you the individual person and tells you when you are fertile and ready to conceive and when you’re infertile and unable to conceive.
Now, if you’re thinking that the NFP I’m talking about is the old calendar rhythm method that was developed in the 1930’s, I’m not. The old rhythm method was often inaccurate because it did not take into account the uniqueness of each woman’s fertility cycle. Today, NFP reveals the fertility cycles of every single individual person, even if their cycles are irregular. And NFP today, used correctly, is over 98% successful in spacing or limiting births which is as good, if not better, than any form of contraception.
Now maybe you’re saying to yourself, “If a couple using contraception and a couple using NFP are both trying to avoid pregnancy, what difference does it make if I use contraception?” The answer is, “A huge difference.”
First, contraception is the choice to sterilize the marital embrace. For example, a contracepting couple chooses to engage in the marital embrace, and knowing it may result in a new life, willfully suppresses their fertility.
However, an NFP couple never contracepts. With NFP, you abstain from the marital embrace during the fertile period rather than sterilize and frustrate what it was created for. The difference between sterilizing the marital embrace ourselves or working with our God-given infertile times is very big indeed.
And if you’re thinking you don’t have the will power to abstain from the marital embrace from time to time, you do and I can prove it; you’re all abstaining right now. Besides, NFP is not about constant abstinence. If you’re using NFP, and engage in the marital embrace on all the days of the month when abstinence is not required, you’d be enjoying the marital embrace almost twice as much as the national average. Yes, there are statistics for such things. I’ve looked them up!
Speaking of statistics, we’re all familiar with the fact that 50% of all marriages end in divorce. You know what the divorce rate is for NFP couples? Less than 5%. That’s a category we all want to be in.
Why is NFP so powerful for strengthening marriages? It’s because NFP respects the bodies of spouses. It encourages tenderness between them. It fosters really, really good communication, cooperation and commitment. Yes, it requires some sacrifice. But that’s a good thing. A real good thing. Show me anything good in this world that doesn’t require sacrifice. It doesn’t put up barriers between spouses the way contraception does. Rather, it allows spouses to give themselves completely to one another. Finally, it helps us love our spouse the way Christ loves us: completely and fruitfully with a love that knows no limits.
There are a number of ways you can learn about Natural Family Planning:
Here is the contact information for three area Creighton Model NFP teachers:
Jackie Oberhausen
Trinity FertilityCare Services
Fort Wayne, IN 46835
Features NaProTECHNOLOGY®
Phone: 260-414-1634
e-mail: jackieoberhausencrms@gmail.com
Theresa Schortgen
FertilityCare Specialist of Northeast Indiana
New Haven, IN 46774
Features NaProTECHNOLOGY®
Phone: 260-494-6444 Fax: 240-749-6706
e-mail: chartdaily365@frontier.com
Leah Oberhausen 260-418-9404
More Creighton Model NFP teachers can be found at http://www.fertilitycare.org/.
Dr. Patrick Holly, a St. Vincent's parishoner, is a Creighton Model NFP physician. His contact information is:
Dr. Patrick Holly
6400 Rothman Rd
Fort Wayne, IN 46835
(260) 486-6197
An introductory class on Natural Family Planning will be offered at St. Elizabeth Ann Seton parish in Fort Wayne on October 29th. St. Elizabeth's phone number is (260) 432-0268.
A complete list of Natural Family Planning classes offered by the Diocese of Fort Wayne - South Bend may be found here.
Information about Natural Family Planning may also be found on the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops website.
The USCCB has also put together a great website, foryourmarriage.org, to help married couples and those preparing and discerning marriage strengthen the marriage covenant.
And as your spiritual father and bridegroom I am always available and ready to help. I understand that this is a very misuderstood issue. I want to help you understand it. Call me anytime at our parish office at (260) 489-3537.
If you want to strengthen your marriage with all the benefits NFP has to offer, and if you want to experience a love that knows no limits, please take one of these steps to learn about NFP.
One of the great joys I get to share in is helping couples prepare for marriage. If you’re a married couple, think back to how excited you were as you prepared to begin your life together. And even if you’re not married, surely you’ve seen the joy of your family and friends as they get ready for marriage.
Now I won’t be coy and pretend as though the days leading up to marriage are completely free from all anxiety. There’s all the details of the ceremony: invitations, dresses, tuxes, who to stick your weird Uncle Bill with at the reception and so on. And that’s just the small stuff! There’s also stuff like putting together a financial plan, buying a house, whose parents you’ll spend Thanksgiving with, living the life of faith, getting each other to Heaven, and so on.
But on the whole, helping couples prepare for marriage can be a real joy. Especially when they talk about their hopes and dreams. When they talk about how they want to make a life together… how they want to give their lives to one another… and how much they love one another. Conversations about invitations and cake cease as soon as the wedding day is done (or at least as soon as the bills are paid!). But hopefully conversations about your hopes, dreams, expectations and love for one another continue through the years.
Just about every couple mentions the following things they want from their marriage and their spouse: they want good communication. They want complete and total commitment from their spouse. They want healthy and happy children. They are ready and willing to sacrifice for one another. They want to be faithful to one another their entire lives. They don’t want to hold anything back from one another.
In other words, they want a love that knows no limits
Which is great because this is precisely the love Christ has for us: a love that knows no limits. Christ’s love for us is so great, He, who is God, became one like us. He lived and worked like us. He grew up in a family like us. He suffered hardship like us. He also suffered his passion and death on the Cross for us. He gave his entire life for us and held nothing back. His love for us is a love that knows no limits.
Christ tells us to follow His example of love. “As I have loved you,” Jesus says, “so you should love one another.” We are to love one another, and most especially our spouse by giving our entire lives to them and holding nothing back. These are the dreams that were born the day you fell in love with your spouse. This is the type of love you hoped and prayed for as you got ready for marriage. This is the love you pledged yourselves to when you said your wedding vows. And this is the type of love you choose to live everyday of your marriage: a love that knows no limits.
However, as we all well know, multiple forces attack this love that knows no limits. Arguments about money… jealousy… inattentiveness… lack of communication. All these can lead to breakdowns in our marriages. They pile up barriers between husbands and wives. They prevent us from giving ourselves completely and unselfishly to our spouses.
And there’s another force that attacks this love we all yearn for, this love that knows no limits, and that’s contraception. Although we may not realize it or intend it, marriages are under attack by contraception because contraception prevents us from giving our entire lives to our spouse.
Now, I’m not saying that a couple who uses contraception doesn’t love each other. I am absolutely certain that couples who use birth control love each other in so many authentic ways. However, the act of contracepted love itself can never be an act of authentic love. Because, when we use contraception, whether we’re aware of it or not, whether we intend it or not, we say to our spouse with our bodies, “You can have all of me… except for this one part of me: my fertility. I’m keeping that part of me to myself and you can’t have it at the present moment.” And, when we use contraception, we say to God, whether we’re aware of it or not, whether we intend it or not, “I’m sorry God, but I’m not going to let you completely into this union at the present moment.”
Because there aren’t just two in a marriage, there are three: a husband, a wife, and God who unites them and gives them the gift of children.
When couples contracept, they close themselves off from the two things God designed the marital embrace for: a two in one flesh union and children. Or, as I like to say, the two things God made the marital embrace for: bonding and babies.
Now don’t get me wrong, God is not saying that you must conceive a child with every single marital embrace. There are many good reasons why couples need to regulate the number of children they have. The ability to provide financially for a bigger family for instance. Or the health of the mother. God is not saying you have to have as many babies as your bodies can tolerate.
However, He is saying that husbands and wives must cooperate with His design for the marital embrace: husbands and wives must be truly be bonded to one another, holding nothing back and they must be open to the possibility of children.
There is however, a way husbands and wives can regulate how many children they have and when they have them without saying “no” to God’s design for bonding and babies. It’s called Natural Family Planning.
Natural Family Planning, or NFP, is a method by which spouses may achieve or avoid pregnancy by observing naturally occurring signs in the woman’s body. Unlike contraception which invades and sterilizes the body, NFP looks at you the individual person and tells you when you are fertile and ready to conceive and when you’re infertile and unable to conceive.
Now, if you’re thinking that the NFP I’m talking about is the old calendar rhythm method that was developed in the 1930’s, I’m not. The old rhythm method was often inaccurate because it did not take into account the uniqueness of each woman’s fertility cycle. Today, NFP reveals the fertility cycles of every single individual person, even if their cycles are irregular. And NFP today, used correctly, is over 98% successful in spacing or limiting births which is as good, if not better, than any form of contraception.
Now maybe you’re saying to yourself, “If a couple using contraception and a couple using NFP are both trying to avoid pregnancy, what difference does it make if I use contraception?” The answer is, “A huge difference.”
First, contraception is the choice to sterilize the marital embrace. For example, a contracepting couple chooses to engage in the marital embrace, and knowing it may result in a new life, willfully suppresses their fertility.
However, an NFP couple never contracepts. With NFP, you abstain from the marital embrace during the fertile period rather than sterilize and frustrate what it was created for. The difference between sterilizing the marital embrace ourselves or working with our God-given infertile times is very big indeed.
And if you’re thinking you don’t have the will power to abstain from the marital embrace from time to time, you do and I can prove it; you’re all abstaining right now. Besides, NFP is not about constant abstinence. If you’re using NFP, and engage in the marital embrace on all the days of the month when abstinence is not required, you’d be enjoying the marital embrace almost twice as much as the national average. Yes, there are statistics for such things. I’ve looked them up!
Speaking of statistics, we’re all familiar with the fact that 50% of all marriages end in divorce. You know what the divorce rate is for NFP couples? Less than 5%. That’s a category we all want to be in.
Why is NFP so powerful for strengthening marriages? It’s because NFP respects the bodies of spouses. It encourages tenderness between them. It fosters really, really good communication, cooperation and commitment. Yes, it requires some sacrifice. But that’s a good thing. A real good thing. Show me anything good in this world that doesn’t require sacrifice. It doesn’t put up barriers between spouses the way contraception does. Rather, it allows spouses to give themselves completely to one another. Finally, it helps us love our spouse the way Christ loves us: completely and fruitfully with a love that knows no limits.
There are a number of ways you can learn about Natural Family Planning:
Here is the contact information for three area Creighton Model NFP teachers:
Jackie Oberhausen
Trinity FertilityCare Services
Fort Wayne, IN 46835
Features NaProTECHNOLOGY®
Phone: 260-414-1634
e-mail: jackieoberhausencrms@gmail.com
Theresa Schortgen
FertilityCare Specialist of Northeast Indiana
New Haven, IN 46774
Features NaProTECHNOLOGY®
Phone: 260-494-6444 Fax: 240-749-6706
e-mail: chartdaily365@frontier.com
Leah Oberhausen 260-418-9404
More Creighton Model NFP teachers can be found at http://www.fertilitycare.org/.
Dr. Patrick Holly, a St. Vincent's parishoner, is a Creighton Model NFP physician. His contact information is:
Dr. Patrick Holly
6400 Rothman Rd
Fort Wayne, IN 46835
(260) 486-6197
An introductory class on Natural Family Planning will be offered at St. Elizabeth Ann Seton parish in Fort Wayne on October 29th. St. Elizabeth's phone number is (260) 432-0268.
A complete list of Natural Family Planning classes offered by the Diocese of Fort Wayne - South Bend may be found here.
Information about Natural Family Planning may also be found on the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops website.
The USCCB has also put together a great website, foryourmarriage.org, to help married couples and those preparing and discerning marriage strengthen the marriage covenant.
And as your spiritual father and bridegroom I am always available and ready to help. I understand that this is a very misuderstood issue. I want to help you understand it. Call me anytime at our parish office at (260) 489-3537.
If you want to strengthen your marriage with all the benefits NFP has to offer, and if you want to experience a love that knows no limits, please take one of these steps to learn about NFP.
Sunday, September 25, 2011
Kenosis: Let Go & Let God
Homily from the 26th Sunday of Ordinary Time - Year A
This weekend, twenty-five women from our parish and beyond are on a “Christ Renews His Parish” weekend. This is the 50th women’s “Christ Renews” weekend at St. Vincent’s. A couple of weeks ago, the 50th “Christ Renews” weekend for men was held. It’s a kind of milestone.
Every team selects a theme and has a banner made depicting this theme and those banners are hung throughout the various rooms used during the weekend: in the cafeteria, the Spiritual Center and so on. A couple of past “Christ Renews” teams selected the theme “Let Go and Let God.” It’s a great theme and you could say it’s the theme St. Paul speaks so beautifully about in his letter to the Church in Phillipi – our second reading today.
Today, St. Paul tells us about the attitude of Jesus; the same attitude he wants us all to have. Paul says, that though Jesus “was in the form of God, [He] did not regard equality with God something to be grasped. Rather, he emptied Himself, taking the form of a slave.” It’s a beautiful description of Jesus’ attitude: “he emptied himself” The Greeks have a word for this we heard all the time in the seminary: “kenosis” – the emptying of one’s self. And the fullness of Jesus’ kenosis is the gift He makes of Himself for us on His Cross.
Although He is fully divine; He let’s go of His divinity. The night before He died, He begged His Father that if it were possible, to let the cup of His passion and death to pass Him by. But then He immediately submitted Himself to the Father’s will: “Not as I will, but as You will.”
Jesus let’s go: He let’s go of His own will. And Jesus let’s God: He defers to the Father’s will completely. It’s ironic isn’t it? Jesus, who is God, is the epitome of letting go of Godliness.
One of my favorite depictions of Christ on the Cross is this one: this was the type Crucifix, Blessed Pope John Paul II carried as his crozier during his pontificate. One of the unique and beautiful features of this Cross is Jesus’ hands. You see, in this Cross, Jesus’ hands are not only pierced by the nails. Jesus actually grabs the nails, he embraces them, he grasps them.
The Original Sin of Adam and Eve was that they regarded equality with God something to be grasped. They weren’t satisfied with gratefully accepting all that God had to offer. Instead, they grasped for themselves the gift of God when they grasped the fruit from the tree; like children who won’t let you simply hand them a cookie. Even though you are going to give it to them, as soon as they see it, they lose sight of the fact that you are offering it to them and they reach for it saying “Gimme! Gimme! Gimme!”
Unlike Adam however, Jesus, the New Adam, grasps not the fruit from the wood of the tree. Rather, he grasps the nails from the wood of the tree. He grasps, and firmly holds onto, our salvation until His dying breath.
This is the attitude of Jesus Christ. This is the attitude St. Paul urges us to adopt for ourselves. “Do nothing out of selfishness or out of vainglory; rather, humbly regard others as more important than yourselves, each looking out for his own interests, but also for those of others.
If we insist on continuing to grasp our own selfish interests, we will be unable to grasp God and our loved ones. If we fail to undergo our own kenosis; if we fail to empty ourselves, we will have no room for God, for our spouse, for our family and friends. We need to let go, and let God.
I’d like to close by sharing with you the words of another preacher, Dr. James Allen Francis – a Baptist preacher who, in 1926, spoke immortal words about Jesus Christ. The following is an adaptation of his sermon. And as you listen to his words, I invite you to look upon Him. Look at Jesus on this magnificent Cross in our sanctuary and listen to these words:
“Here is a man who was born in an obscure village, the child of a peasant woman. He grew up in another village. He worked as a carpenter shop until He was thirty. Then for three years He was an itinerant preacher.
He never owned a home. He never wrote a book. He never held an office. He never had a family. He never went to college. He never put his foot inside a big city. He never traveled two hundred miles from the place He was born. He never did one of the things that usually accompany greatness. He had no credentials but Himself…
While still a young man, the tide of popular opinion turned against him. His friends ran away. One of them denied Him. He was turned over to His enemies. He went through the mockery of a trail. He was nailed to a cross between two thieves. While He was dying His executioners gambled for the only piece of property He had on earth – His coat. When He was dead, He was laid in a borrowed grave through the pity of a friend.
Nineteen long centuries have come and gone, and today He is a centerpiece of the human race and leader of the column of progress.
I am far within the mark when I say that all the armies that ever marched, all the navies that were ever built; all the parliaments that ever sat and all the kings that ever reigned put together, have not affected the life of man upon this earth as powerfully as has that one solitary life.”
My friends, Christians throughout the world, regard Jesus Christ the way they do not because He elevated Himself, but rather because He allowed Himself to be elevated on the cross.
We love Him not because He climbed the corporate ladder or the political world or a popularity contest, but rather because He climbed the mountain of Calvary.
We worship Him as our God not because He grasped Godliness, but rather because He grasped God-forsakenness by grasping the nails which pierced His hands.
We give our lives to Him because in Him, and in Him alone, we find a place to live for all eternity.
We find it in Him, in His Sacred Heart because He emptied His Heart to give us a place to live.
We love Him because He let go and let God.
This weekend, twenty-five women from our parish and beyond are on a “Christ Renews His Parish” weekend. This is the 50th women’s “Christ Renews” weekend at St. Vincent’s. A couple of weeks ago, the 50th “Christ Renews” weekend for men was held. It’s a kind of milestone.
Every team selects a theme and has a banner made depicting this theme and those banners are hung throughout the various rooms used during the weekend: in the cafeteria, the Spiritual Center and so on. A couple of past “Christ Renews” teams selected the theme “Let Go and Let God.” It’s a great theme and you could say it’s the theme St. Paul speaks so beautifully about in his letter to the Church in Phillipi – our second reading today.
Today, St. Paul tells us about the attitude of Jesus; the same attitude he wants us all to have. Paul says, that though Jesus “was in the form of God, [He] did not regard equality with God something to be grasped. Rather, he emptied Himself, taking the form of a slave.” It’s a beautiful description of Jesus’ attitude: “he emptied himself” The Greeks have a word for this we heard all the time in the seminary: “kenosis” – the emptying of one’s self. And the fullness of Jesus’ kenosis is the gift He makes of Himself for us on His Cross.
Although He is fully divine; He let’s go of His divinity. The night before He died, He begged His Father that if it were possible, to let the cup of His passion and death to pass Him by. But then He immediately submitted Himself to the Father’s will: “Not as I will, but as You will.”
Jesus let’s go: He let’s go of His own will. And Jesus let’s God: He defers to the Father’s will completely. It’s ironic isn’t it? Jesus, who is God, is the epitome of letting go of Godliness.
One of my favorite depictions of Christ on the Cross is this one: this was the type Crucifix, Blessed Pope John Paul II carried as his crozier during his pontificate. One of the unique and beautiful features of this Cross is Jesus’ hands. You see, in this Cross, Jesus’ hands are not only pierced by the nails. Jesus actually grabs the nails, he embraces them, he grasps them.
The Original Sin of Adam and Eve was that they regarded equality with God something to be grasped. They weren’t satisfied with gratefully accepting all that God had to offer. Instead, they grasped for themselves the gift of God when they grasped the fruit from the tree; like children who won’t let you simply hand them a cookie. Even though you are going to give it to them, as soon as they see it, they lose sight of the fact that you are offering it to them and they reach for it saying “Gimme! Gimme! Gimme!”
Unlike Adam however, Jesus, the New Adam, grasps not the fruit from the wood of the tree. Rather, he grasps the nails from the wood of the tree. He grasps, and firmly holds onto, our salvation until His dying breath.
This is the attitude of Jesus Christ. This is the attitude St. Paul urges us to adopt for ourselves. “Do nothing out of selfishness or out of vainglory; rather, humbly regard others as more important than yourselves, each looking out for his own interests, but also for those of others.
If we insist on continuing to grasp our own selfish interests, we will be unable to grasp God and our loved ones. If we fail to undergo our own kenosis; if we fail to empty ourselves, we will have no room for God, for our spouse, for our family and friends. We need to let go, and let God.
I’d like to close by sharing with you the words of another preacher, Dr. James Allen Francis – a Baptist preacher who, in 1926, spoke immortal words about Jesus Christ. The following is an adaptation of his sermon. And as you listen to his words, I invite you to look upon Him. Look at Jesus on this magnificent Cross in our sanctuary and listen to these words:
“Here is a man who was born in an obscure village, the child of a peasant woman. He grew up in another village. He worked as a carpenter shop until He was thirty. Then for three years He was an itinerant preacher.
He never owned a home. He never wrote a book. He never held an office. He never had a family. He never went to college. He never put his foot inside a big city. He never traveled two hundred miles from the place He was born. He never did one of the things that usually accompany greatness. He had no credentials but Himself…
While still a young man, the tide of popular opinion turned against him. His friends ran away. One of them denied Him. He was turned over to His enemies. He went through the mockery of a trail. He was nailed to a cross between two thieves. While He was dying His executioners gambled for the only piece of property He had on earth – His coat. When He was dead, He was laid in a borrowed grave through the pity of a friend.
Nineteen long centuries have come and gone, and today He is a centerpiece of the human race and leader of the column of progress.
I am far within the mark when I say that all the armies that ever marched, all the navies that were ever built; all the parliaments that ever sat and all the kings that ever reigned put together, have not affected the life of man upon this earth as powerfully as has that one solitary life.”
My friends, Christians throughout the world, regard Jesus Christ the way they do not because He elevated Himself, but rather because He allowed Himself to be elevated on the cross.
We love Him not because He climbed the corporate ladder or the political world or a popularity contest, but rather because He climbed the mountain of Calvary.
We worship Him as our God not because He grasped Godliness, but rather because He grasped God-forsakenness by grasping the nails which pierced His hands.
We give our lives to Him because in Him, and in Him alone, we find a place to live for all eternity.
We find it in Him, in His Sacred Heart because He emptied His Heart to give us a place to live.
We love Him because He let go and let God.
Friday, September 23, 2011
The New Roman Missal
On November 27th 2011, the First Sunday of Advent, we at St. Vincent's and, in fact, all Roman Catholic parishes throughout the United States will begin to use a new translation of the Roman Missal.
The Roman Missal contains all the ritual text for the celebration of the Mass. So, since we'll be using a new translation, that means that a number of the words both you and the priests have been saying in Mass will change.
You might ask, "Why this change?" and "What are the changes?" Last week, the 7th and 8th graders at St. Vincent's and I watched the following video about the new translation. It does a great job of explaining why the changes are coming. The students enjoyed the video and they seem to be looking forward to the changes. I invite you to watch the video as well.
If you would like to see the forthcoming changes, you can read the entire text of the new translation of the Mass here. Additionally, the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops has an entire website of information, including Frequently Asked Questions and more.
Here at St. Vincent's, Monsignor John and I will give a series of catechetical homilies on the new translation at all weekend Masses beginning late October. These homilies will focus not only on the new translation but also give us the opportunity to examine the Mass anew! The 7th and 8th graders will be studying the Mass on "Father Fridays" throughout the semester. And I'll be giving what's called a "Dry Mass" at Catholicism Revealed in November. "Dry Masses" were "practice Masses" we'd say in the seminary as we were getting ready for ordination. They're not actual Masses but rather "practices." During this Catholicism Revealed "Dry Mass" we will literally walk through the Mass, step by step, teaching as we go; not only the new words, but also the "what" and "why" of everything we do at Mass from what the priest wears when he says Mass to the meaning of the final dismissal.
The Mass is the most important prayer of the Catholic Church. What a great opportunity to dive more deeply into the richness of this most sacred of our faith and our lives!
The Roman Missal contains all the ritual text for the celebration of the Mass. So, since we'll be using a new translation, that means that a number of the words both you and the priests have been saying in Mass will change.
You might ask, "Why this change?" and "What are the changes?" Last week, the 7th and 8th graders at St. Vincent's and I watched the following video about the new translation. It does a great job of explaining why the changes are coming. The students enjoyed the video and they seem to be looking forward to the changes. I invite you to watch the video as well.
If you would like to see the forthcoming changes, you can read the entire text of the new translation of the Mass here. Additionally, the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops has an entire website of information, including Frequently Asked Questions and more.
Here at St. Vincent's, Monsignor John and I will give a series of catechetical homilies on the new translation at all weekend Masses beginning late October. These homilies will focus not only on the new translation but also give us the opportunity to examine the Mass anew! The 7th and 8th graders will be studying the Mass on "Father Fridays" throughout the semester. And I'll be giving what's called a "Dry Mass" at Catholicism Revealed in November. "Dry Masses" were "practice Masses" we'd say in the seminary as we were getting ready for ordination. They're not actual Masses but rather "practices." During this Catholicism Revealed "Dry Mass" we will literally walk through the Mass, step by step, teaching as we go; not only the new words, but also the "what" and "why" of everything we do at Mass from what the priest wears when he says Mass to the meaning of the final dismissal.
The Mass is the most important prayer of the Catholic Church. What a great opportunity to dive more deeply into the richness of this most sacred of our faith and our lives!
Sunday, September 18, 2011
Why Bargain With God When He Will Give You More Than You Ask For?
Homily from the 25th Sunday in Ordinary Time - Year A
Every true, red-blooded American knows that one of the greatest movie genres is baseball movies. I love baseball movies. I think because many of them are not really about baseball. They’re about humanity and use baseball merely as the backdrop.
One of my favorite baseball movies is “Field of Dreams.” A handful of us in Life Teen got together this past summer and watched it. It’s a real touching movie and I’m a huge sap. So it gets to this one part when Kevin Costner’s character, Ray, asks his dad a question. And it’s this awesome moment between a father and son. Ray asks his dad, “Dad, you wanna have a catch?” And Ray’s voice cracks. And the waterworks start to flow. And I’m sitting there in a chair and all the teens are there. And I’ve got my hand leaned up against my head so they don’t see me weeping like a six-year old girl with a skinned knee.
If you haven’t seen “Field of Dreams” go rent it tonight and watch it. You shouldn’t be allowed to vote in the next election without seeing it.
Ray is a farmer and one day he hears a magical voice say, “Build it and he will come.” Well, Ray is a huge baseball fan, so he concludes that if he rips up half of his corn crop and builds a baseball field there, that the long dead Chicago White Sox outfielder, Shoeless Joe Jackson, who was banned from baseball for throwing the World Series, will get to come back to life and play the game again.
So he builds the field and Shoeless Joe Jackson comes and plays baseball. And Shoeless Joe brings other long gone players with him. And at the close of each day, when the baseball game is over, the players leave the field by walking into the corn beyond the outfield, where they disappear into some mysterious world beyond our own which we do not see.
Then the voice tells Ray to do more crazy things like drive halfway across the country to bring his favorite childhood author to the park. And he does so. He is blindly obedient to the voice and does whatever it says.
Then, one day, as Shoeless Joe Jackson and other long gone baseball players are getting ready to leave and disappear into the world beyond the corn, Shoeless Joe asks the question, “Hey, do you want to come with us?” Except Joe isn’t asking Ray. He’s asking Ray’s favorite author instead who had only arrived a few days ago.
Ray is outraged and blurts out, “Him? Wait a second, why Him? I have done everything I have been asked to do and not once have I asked what’s in it for me?” Shoeless Joe asks Ray, “What are you saying Ray?” Ray responds, “I’m saying, what’s in it for me?” And Joe asks Ray, “Is that why you did this? For you?”
Today, Jesus tells us that the Kingdom of Heaven is like a landowner who goes out to hire laborers to work in his vineyard. And as it turns out, everyone gets the same pay, regardless if they started at the beginning of the workday or at the end. And those who worked all day long are outraged that they are being paid the same amount as those who show up at day’s end. It doesn’t seem fair. Why are the latecomers being paid the same and furthermore why are the latecomers being paid first?
Well, consider what the various laborers agreed to and what they were promised by the landowner: to the laborers hired at dawn, the landowner promises, “the usual daily wage.” They will be paid the amount due for a full day of work. And they agree and go work.
To the laborers hired in the middle of the day, the landowner promises to pay them “what is just.” So, they anticipate a half-day’s wage for a half-day’s work. And they agree and go work.
Finally, to the laborers hired near day’s end, the landowner promises nothing. He simply tells them to go to the vineyard. No payment terms have been negotiated. These laborers are merely given the opportunity to work in the vineyard with no promise of a payback. And with great trust and no concern for “what’s in it for them” they agree and go to work.
So, it’s the latecomers who are the most selfless and trusting and thus, they are paid first. And they are paid the full amount not based on the work they have done. But rather because they accepted the Master’s invitation – His will.
Have you ever prayed like this: “God, if you will just do “x” for me, I promise that I will do “y.” I distinctly remember at least one occasion in which I prayed that way. It was at a baseball game: game six of the National League Championship Series between the Cubs and the Marlins. And I said, “God, if you will just let the Cubs go to the World Series, I promise I will become a priest.”
Then, on the very next play, a fan interfered with a routine pop fly that would have been an easy out to help the Cubs retire the side. Instead the inning was prolonged for the Marlins and they took the lead, won the game and went to the World Series instead of the Cubs.
We can’t get what we want by making a bargain with God. Instead, if we place our trust in God, He will give us so much more than we could ever bargain for. He will give you His Kingdom. He will give you His love. And love never counts the cost.
You are loved by God not because of the good things you do. You are loved by God just because.
We cannot earn God’s love. We cannot earn God’s love just because; just because He already loves us and always will and He’ll never stop loving us.
Now obviously, we can reject His love. He has given each of us a free will. And we can choose to accept His invitation to work in the vineyard or not. And we agree or disagree to work in His vineyard, to enter or not enter into His Kingdom by the choices we make.
But He always keeps the door open. And it doesn’t matter when we enter, be it at the beginning of the day or at the end; at our baptism or on our deathbed, so long as we accept His invitation.
And we don’t need to worry about “What’s in it for me?” Because we have a Father who knows our needs more than we do and offers all of us more than we could ever ask for.
Every true, red-blooded American knows that one of the greatest movie genres is baseball movies. I love baseball movies. I think because many of them are not really about baseball. They’re about humanity and use baseball merely as the backdrop.
One of my favorite baseball movies is “Field of Dreams.” A handful of us in Life Teen got together this past summer and watched it. It’s a real touching movie and I’m a huge sap. So it gets to this one part when Kevin Costner’s character, Ray, asks his dad a question. And it’s this awesome moment between a father and son. Ray asks his dad, “Dad, you wanna have a catch?” And Ray’s voice cracks. And the waterworks start to flow. And I’m sitting there in a chair and all the teens are there. And I’ve got my hand leaned up against my head so they don’t see me weeping like a six-year old girl with a skinned knee.
If you haven’t seen “Field of Dreams” go rent it tonight and watch it. You shouldn’t be allowed to vote in the next election without seeing it.
Ray is a farmer and one day he hears a magical voice say, “Build it and he will come.” Well, Ray is a huge baseball fan, so he concludes that if he rips up half of his corn crop and builds a baseball field there, that the long dead Chicago White Sox outfielder, Shoeless Joe Jackson, who was banned from baseball for throwing the World Series, will get to come back to life and play the game again.
So he builds the field and Shoeless Joe Jackson comes and plays baseball. And Shoeless Joe brings other long gone players with him. And at the close of each day, when the baseball game is over, the players leave the field by walking into the corn beyond the outfield, where they disappear into some mysterious world beyond our own which we do not see.
Then the voice tells Ray to do more crazy things like drive halfway across the country to bring his favorite childhood author to the park. And he does so. He is blindly obedient to the voice and does whatever it says.
Then, one day, as Shoeless Joe Jackson and other long gone baseball players are getting ready to leave and disappear into the world beyond the corn, Shoeless Joe asks the question, “Hey, do you want to come with us?” Except Joe isn’t asking Ray. He’s asking Ray’s favorite author instead who had only arrived a few days ago.
Ray is outraged and blurts out, “Him? Wait a second, why Him? I have done everything I have been asked to do and not once have I asked what’s in it for me?” Shoeless Joe asks Ray, “What are you saying Ray?” Ray responds, “I’m saying, what’s in it for me?” And Joe asks Ray, “Is that why you did this? For you?”
Today, Jesus tells us that the Kingdom of Heaven is like a landowner who goes out to hire laborers to work in his vineyard. And as it turns out, everyone gets the same pay, regardless if they started at the beginning of the workday or at the end. And those who worked all day long are outraged that they are being paid the same amount as those who show up at day’s end. It doesn’t seem fair. Why are the latecomers being paid the same and furthermore why are the latecomers being paid first?
Well, consider what the various laborers agreed to and what they were promised by the landowner: to the laborers hired at dawn, the landowner promises, “the usual daily wage.” They will be paid the amount due for a full day of work. And they agree and go work.
To the laborers hired in the middle of the day, the landowner promises to pay them “what is just.” So, they anticipate a half-day’s wage for a half-day’s work. And they agree and go work.
Finally, to the laborers hired near day’s end, the landowner promises nothing. He simply tells them to go to the vineyard. No payment terms have been negotiated. These laborers are merely given the opportunity to work in the vineyard with no promise of a payback. And with great trust and no concern for “what’s in it for them” they agree and go to work.
So, it’s the latecomers who are the most selfless and trusting and thus, they are paid first. And they are paid the full amount not based on the work they have done. But rather because they accepted the Master’s invitation – His will.
Have you ever prayed like this: “God, if you will just do “x” for me, I promise that I will do “y.” I distinctly remember at least one occasion in which I prayed that way. It was at a baseball game: game six of the National League Championship Series between the Cubs and the Marlins. And I said, “God, if you will just let the Cubs go to the World Series, I promise I will become a priest.”
Then, on the very next play, a fan interfered with a routine pop fly that would have been an easy out to help the Cubs retire the side. Instead the inning was prolonged for the Marlins and they took the lead, won the game and went to the World Series instead of the Cubs.
We can’t get what we want by making a bargain with God. Instead, if we place our trust in God, He will give us so much more than we could ever bargain for. He will give you His Kingdom. He will give you His love. And love never counts the cost.
You are loved by God not because of the good things you do. You are loved by God just because.
We cannot earn God’s love. We cannot earn God’s love just because; just because He already loves us and always will and He’ll never stop loving us.
Now obviously, we can reject His love. He has given each of us a free will. And we can choose to accept His invitation to work in the vineyard or not. And we agree or disagree to work in His vineyard, to enter or not enter into His Kingdom by the choices we make.
But He always keeps the door open. And it doesn’t matter when we enter, be it at the beginning of the day or at the end; at our baptism or on our deathbed, so long as we accept His invitation.
And we don’t need to worry about “What’s in it for me?” Because we have a Father who knows our needs more than we do and offers all of us more than we could ever ask for.
Sunday, September 11, 2011
Forgiveness
Homily from the 24th Sunday of Ordinary Time - Year A
Monsignor Hugh O’Flaherty was an Irish priest who worked at the Vatican during the Second World War. He made it his mission to hide thousands of refugees in the Vatican and throughout the city of Rome during the Nazi occupation of Italy. The local Gestapo chief, Colonel Herbert Kappler, painted a white line on the pavement that marked the boundary between the Vatican and Rome and ordered that if Monsignor O’Flaherty ever crossed that line and was captured that he would be tortured and executed. However, the priest frequently snuck out into Rome in disguise to find refugees and help them find safety. Throughout the war, he saved the lives of over 6,500 American soldiers and Jews.
When the war came to an end, Colonel Kappler was captured and sentenced to life in prison. During this time Colonel Kappler had a frequent visitor: Monsignor Hugh O’Flaherty. For many months, the priest was the only visitor the Nazi ever had. Eventually, Colonel Kappler’s heart would be penetrated by the love, mercy and forgiveness of Jesus Christ. And in 1959, Colonel Kappler was baptized and received into the Catholic Church by Monsignor O’Flaherty.
This famous and moving story is depicted in the movie “The Scarlet and the Black.” Gregory Peck plays O’Flaherty and Christopher Plummer plays Kappler.
There was a man watching this movie once who, when he saw how it ended, how Kappler was forgiven and welcomed into the Church, hit the roof. He was a veteran of the Second World War who saw the horrors and atrocities of the Nazi regime. He had decided long ago that under no circumstances would he ever forgive them. They were too evil, they had done too much harm. To forgive them would be wrong because it would not be fair.
He is right. Forgiveness is not fair. Forgiveness is not something that can be earned or merited or deserved. Forgiveness is a gift; a gift given by the one who is offended to the one who offends regardless if they deserve it or not.
God gives you and I the gift of forgiveness. And thank God that He doesn’t give us what we deserve. We offend Him constantly by our sins; so what do we deserve for that? Walking into the confessional with the mentality that we deserve forgiveness is a truly bad idea. We receive forgiveness not because we deserve it. We receive forgiveness because God is merciful and loving and He forgives. It’s a pure gift He gives to you and I.
We struggle however to forgive others as we’ve been forgiven. C.S. Lewis once said that “Everyone says that forgiveness is a lovely idea until they have someone to forgive.” We don’t want to forgive because we’ve been terribly wounded, we’re angry, it doesn’t seem fair, we don’t think we should let the offender off the hook. When we’re in pain, being told we need to forgive can even seem offensive.
However, forgiveness is, in fact, a necessity in the life of a Christian. Not because it’s a lovely idea. But because if we fail to forgive how our hearts have been wounded, we will allow a callous to grow around our heart that will close out peace, goodness and perhaps even God Himself.
We need to forgive for ourselves. There’s an ancient Chinese proverb: “If you’re not willing to forgive, you’d better get ready to dig two graves.” Ironically, in refusing to forgive others, we’re the ones who often wind up hurt.
Perhaps we’re reluctant to forgive because we have a false understanding of what forgiveness is.
Forgiveness is not forgetting. You’ve all heard the phrase “forgive and forget.” It’s not from the Bible. It’s from the novel “Don Quixote.” And it’s nonsense. You can’t forget past wounds. Our brains are not hard drives that can be erased. Forgiveness doesn’t require forgetting, but it does require letting go. It’s about putting the past where it belongs: behind us. It’s about not looking back in bitterness but instead looking forward in faith.
Forgiveness is not being a punching bag. Sometimes people cause great harm. That doesn’t mean they’re not worthy of our forgiveness, it means they’re not worthy of our trust at the moment. If someone commits a crime they can be forgive and go to jail. Do you remember when Blessed Pope John Paul II was shot? And how he visited his would be assassin in jail? The Pope forgave him. Then he left and let him serve his time in jail.
Forgiveness is not kissing and making up. Sometimes people are dangerous or unrepentant. And sometimes we need to forgive from a distance those who need to be kept at a distance.
Forgiveness is possible and it is necessary. And forgiveness is not offered only to those who ask for it. Forgiveness is offered to those who need it. And sometimes we need to forgive even those who are unwilling to ask for it.
This past Friday night, Dateline NBC did a story about the attacks of 9/11. And in one segment they were telling the story about United Airlines 93. That was the flight where the passengers had learned about the planes that crashed into the World Trade Center and decided to fight back. And because of their heroism, United flight 93 crashed into a field in Pennsylvania rather than the White House.
Todd Beamer was one of the heroes on that flight. Todd was the one who said “Let’s roll” as they ran to take back control of the airplane. However, before Todd Beamer said “Let’s roll” he prayed with the only person he could get on the phone, a customer service representative from GTE. Together, Todd and the operator, prayed the prayer you and I will pray in a few moments, the “Our Father.” And they prayed the words “forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.”
On Friday night, Todd’s widow Lisa, said that “in some way he was forgiving those people for what they were doing; the most horrible thing you could do to someone.”
He did so not because they deserved it. They didn’t. Forgiveness is never something deserved.
He did so, not because he wanted to be a punching bag or wanted to kiss and make up. He was anything but.
He did so, not because it was fair.
He did so because in the midst the terrorism, in the midst of “those people… doing the most horrible thing you could do to someone,” as he was about to lose his life, Todd Beamer would make Jesus Christ present in that very plane by making Christ’s mercy present. Todd Beamer knew he would be forgiven his trespasses only to the extent he was willing to forgive those who trespassed against him, even his worst enemies.
That is tremendous forgiveness. That is the same forgiveness Christ offered from His Cross. As He was about to lose His life He prayed to His Father to forgive us.
So who do we need to forgive? What do we need to let go of? What do we need to be freed from? And where do we need to make Christ present in the world today?
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| Monsignor Hugh O'Flaherty |
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| Colonel Herbert Kappler |
This famous and moving story is depicted in the movie “The Scarlet and the Black.” Gregory Peck plays O’Flaherty and Christopher Plummer plays Kappler.
There was a man watching this movie once who, when he saw how it ended, how Kappler was forgiven and welcomed into the Church, hit the roof. He was a veteran of the Second World War who saw the horrors and atrocities of the Nazi regime. He had decided long ago that under no circumstances would he ever forgive them. They were too evil, they had done too much harm. To forgive them would be wrong because it would not be fair.
He is right. Forgiveness is not fair. Forgiveness is not something that can be earned or merited or deserved. Forgiveness is a gift; a gift given by the one who is offended to the one who offends regardless if they deserve it or not.
God gives you and I the gift of forgiveness. And thank God that He doesn’t give us what we deserve. We offend Him constantly by our sins; so what do we deserve for that? Walking into the confessional with the mentality that we deserve forgiveness is a truly bad idea. We receive forgiveness not because we deserve it. We receive forgiveness because God is merciful and loving and He forgives. It’s a pure gift He gives to you and I.
We struggle however to forgive others as we’ve been forgiven. C.S. Lewis once said that “Everyone says that forgiveness is a lovely idea until they have someone to forgive.” We don’t want to forgive because we’ve been terribly wounded, we’re angry, it doesn’t seem fair, we don’t think we should let the offender off the hook. When we’re in pain, being told we need to forgive can even seem offensive.
However, forgiveness is, in fact, a necessity in the life of a Christian. Not because it’s a lovely idea. But because if we fail to forgive how our hearts have been wounded, we will allow a callous to grow around our heart that will close out peace, goodness and perhaps even God Himself.
We need to forgive for ourselves. There’s an ancient Chinese proverb: “If you’re not willing to forgive, you’d better get ready to dig two graves.” Ironically, in refusing to forgive others, we’re the ones who often wind up hurt.
Perhaps we’re reluctant to forgive because we have a false understanding of what forgiveness is.
Forgiveness is not forgetting. You’ve all heard the phrase “forgive and forget.” It’s not from the Bible. It’s from the novel “Don Quixote.” And it’s nonsense. You can’t forget past wounds. Our brains are not hard drives that can be erased. Forgiveness doesn’t require forgetting, but it does require letting go. It’s about putting the past where it belongs: behind us. It’s about not looking back in bitterness but instead looking forward in faith.
Forgiveness is not being a punching bag. Sometimes people cause great harm. That doesn’t mean they’re not worthy of our forgiveness, it means they’re not worthy of our trust at the moment. If someone commits a crime they can be forgive and go to jail. Do you remember when Blessed Pope John Paul II was shot? And how he visited his would be assassin in jail? The Pope forgave him. Then he left and let him serve his time in jail.
Forgiveness is not kissing and making up. Sometimes people are dangerous or unrepentant. And sometimes we need to forgive from a distance those who need to be kept at a distance.
Forgiveness is possible and it is necessary. And forgiveness is not offered only to those who ask for it. Forgiveness is offered to those who need it. And sometimes we need to forgive even those who are unwilling to ask for it.
This past Friday night, Dateline NBC did a story about the attacks of 9/11. And in one segment they were telling the story about United Airlines 93. That was the flight where the passengers had learned about the planes that crashed into the World Trade Center and decided to fight back. And because of their heroism, United flight 93 crashed into a field in Pennsylvania rather than the White House.
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| Todd Beamer |
On Friday night, Todd’s widow Lisa, said that “in some way he was forgiving those people for what they were doing; the most horrible thing you could do to someone.”
He did so not because they deserved it. They didn’t. Forgiveness is never something deserved.
He did so, not because he wanted to be a punching bag or wanted to kiss and make up. He was anything but.
He did so, not because it was fair.
He did so because in the midst the terrorism, in the midst of “those people… doing the most horrible thing you could do to someone,” as he was about to lose his life, Todd Beamer would make Jesus Christ present in that very plane by making Christ’s mercy present. Todd Beamer knew he would be forgiven his trespasses only to the extent he was willing to forgive those who trespassed against him, even his worst enemies.
That is tremendous forgiveness. That is the same forgiveness Christ offered from His Cross. As He was about to lose His life He prayed to His Father to forgive us.
So who do we need to forgive? What do we need to let go of? What do we need to be freed from? And where do we need to make Christ present in the world today?
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